Is It Possible To Mend My Broken Heart and Save My Marriage By Getting Plastic Surgery?

It is my belief that many women wish to salvage their marriage by having plastic surgery. But who are the women having the plastic surgery completed for, themselves or to hold on to their man? Attempting to mend your broken heart is what you might find yourself doing whatever your objectives are.

The first to get plastic surgery was my friend Cori. Her marriage of 16 years had always been pretty rocky, in fact early that year they had done a trial separation. The kids were starting to behave badly at school and home, so they decided to give their marriage another chance. Since both of them had had affairs there was a lot to work through. Cori’s husband, Will, was over compensating to try and bring the excitement back into their relationship and Cori was always measuring herself up to the woman her husband had the affair with.

Plastic surgery would help with their problems they decided as they were trying to work through them. Cori wanted to feel better about her body and her husband hoped with her new confidence that their relationship would get that spice back. Since the one thing that Cori wasn't happy with on her body was her breasts, they decided that she would get breast implants.

She told me that after the surgery she literally had to fight her husband off and she loved it! She professes that it saved their marriage and it was the best decision they ever made.

Regrettably, this is not always the case, some men are frightened of their women receiving plastic surgery. This woman from Alberta wants to have breast implants, liposuction and a tummy tuck however, her husband says he loves her exactly as she is. He fears that with this new body, she will run off and have an affair, when all she really wants is the body she had before they had children. Is it really necessary for him to have these fears?

Most women get plastic surgery to make them feel better about themselves. The surgery may give them the sense of worth they need to leave the relationship if it is undesirable. However, no damaging effects should be felt if the relationship is rock-solid.

Confession of another woman revealed that her husband inquired if she would ever contemplate getting breast implants. She thought he loved her C cups, even though they weren't quite as perky after two kids. She decided to get the surgery done to please him because she instantly became insecure about them and she thought that is what he wanted. While his comment had been quite innocent it planted a seed into her head.

She thought she looked like a clown as she felt her slim build looked like a pencil with two huge balloons on it. As such the surgery made her feel depressed. Although her husband told her she looked beautiful she became more and more self-conscious. In the end, she choose to have the surgery reversed and had a breast lift done as an alternative, all with her husband’s complete encouragement. She claimed for the first time in a long time she feels like herself again and her husband was just happy to have her back.

If you are getting the surgery to please someone else or if the relationship is already having problems or there is a history of problems, most research states that plastic surgery often does not help. The underlying problems are still there and the surgery is only a temporary solution. In any case, the relationship will not endure if those problems are not dealt with before considering surgery.

This is just what Cori experienced. Her marriage began to have problems again just six months after her breast surgery. While her new body and confidence had been a great distraction for six months, the same old problems and patterns began to surface and they were back where they had started – separated. She did the surgery for herself and her husband, for which she has no regrets despite her broken heart that they couldn't work it out. She is certain that her heart will mend as she says she feels much better about herself.

Plastic surgery done for the right reasons, and not to act as a "band-aid" to save your marriage, can have many positive affects. After all it's quite normal to want to have your body back after having children, or change something you've always wanted to change, or just to fight aging. You should not be doing to please someone else, you have to be doing it because you want it no matter what. If you are using plastic surgery in an attempt to rescue your marriage, you could instead find yourself struggling to mend your broken heart.